IN RELATIONSHIPS, THERE ARE CERTAIN "RED FLAGS" THAT YOU SHOULD BE AWARE OF.  IF YOU SEE THESE CONSISTENTLY IN A RELATIONSHIP, IT IS A STRONG INDICATOR THAT YOU COULD BE IN AN ABUSIVE, OR POTENTIALLY ABUSIVE, RELATIONSHIP. THE 27 RED FLAGS ARE:

1. Mood swings.
 

2. Any kind of violence.
 

3. She/he say’s “You’re the only person for me”.
 

4. Double standards.
 

5. She/he doesn’t meet his/her needs or keep promises.
 

6. She/he gets him/her to talk about themselves, but she/he rarely discloses.
 

7. He/she feels an attraction to his or her strength-physical & emotional.
 

8. She/he has a family history of abuse.
 

9. She/he has a problem with alcohol/drug use.
 

10. How does he/she interact with children?
 

11. How do you feel about yourself when you’re with her/him? Can you be yourself?
 

12. Watch for information passed on by friends on how they act when she/he is around.
 

13. Watch for very exclusive relationship.

14. Excessive jealousy.
 

15. Pressure to get married.
 

16. She/he seems, “too good to be true”. Probably is!
 

17. Beware if you feel defensive - a need to justify what you do.
 

18. Do you choose not to say how you feel because you don’t want to hurt his/her feelings, or make him/her mad?
 

19. She/he doesn’t have any other friends, only you.
 

20. When she/he’s angry, she/he attacks your personhood.
 

21. She/he blames you or other people when things go wrong.
 

22. Violence in his/her past relationship?
 

23. Do you feel a need to take care of him/her?
 

24. How does he/she handle anger?
 

25. How does she/he interact with their own family?
 

26. Is she/he traditional in role expectations - no room for change?
 

27. Do you have plans to "improve" him/her?