In relationships, there are certain "Red Flags" that you should be aware of. If you see these consistantly in a relationship, its is a strong indicator that you could be in an abusive, or potentially abusive relationship.

The 27 red Flags are:

1. Mood swings.
 
2. Any kind of violence.
 
3. She/he say’s “You’re the only person for me”.
 
4. Double standards.
 
5. She/he doesn’t meet his/her needs or keep promises.
 
6. She/he gets him/her to talk about themselves, but she/he rarely discloses.
 
7. He/she feels an attraction to his or her strength-physical & emotional.
 
8. She/he has a family history of abuse.
 
9. She/he has a problem with alcohol/drug use.
 
10. How does he/she interact with children?
 
11. How do you feel about yourself when you’re with her/him? Can you be yourself?
 
12. Watch for information passed on by friends on how they act when she/he is around.
 
13. Watch for very exclusive relationship.

14. Excessive jealousy.
 
15. Pressure to get married.
 
16. She/he seems, “too good to be true”. Probably is!
 
17. Beware if you feel defensive - a need to justify what you do.
 
18. Do you choose not to say how you feel because you don’t want to hurt his/her feelings, or make him/her mad?
 
19. She/he doesn’t have any other friends, only you.
 
20. When she/he’s angry, she/he attacks your personhood.
 
21. She/he blames you or other people when things go wrong.
 
22. Violence in his/her past relationship?
 
23. Do you feel a need to take care of him/her?
 
24. How does he/she handle anger?
 
25. How does she/he interact with their own family?
 
26. Is she/he traditional in role expectations - no room for change?
 
27. Do you have plans to "improve" him/her?